I’m sure everyone experiences this tender period, when the desires are strong and patience necessary. We can choose to manipulate the other person to make them want us. And sometimes we’ll be successful, but it will never be pure love anymore or fulfilling for us.

We’re like a moon flower opening only under the light of a full moon. When the light touches the flower she can trust that this is the right moment to open and blossom in a very tender and special way. She is waiting for this moment and it’s impossible to fake or manipulate her to open quicker.

When two people get together it’s like two special flowers, each has their own time when it’s possible to open and blossom. And sometimes it takes a fucking long time and the other is already getting crazy or thinking it will never happen.

I want to talk about a longing that you may also experience. I have just discovered this feeling. While not knowing exactly what I can expect from the person I like, the desire to manipulate the situation is there.

But when I overcome the temptation to manipulate the person and their feelings and have trust that everything is perfect as it is, then I enter a place of ‘heart longing’. It’s about simply waiting for this beautiful flower to open to me, not trying to open it.

It can be a very difficult feeling when I want someone and he is not sure if he is ready to open too. When I say ‘open’ I mean the kind of vulnerable and sensitive intimate space where I would like to meet him. I did not understand why it happened so many times to me, until I understood that god blessed me to be able to feel strong desire for men, for love, for intimacy.

This state of heart longing is like a moment of inspiration for me. I can use the clarity of my mind in a creative way, which gives me boundless possibilities. The soul knows exactly what the body needs because this is a moment of perfect connection between all aspects of your being. This feeling may only last for a couple of minutes, but time doesn’t matter here. And it doesn’t mater if we get what we want, what’s important is to transmit the desire into heart longing, the universal love that has no conditions.

What I mean is that we should not put any expectations onto the subject of our desire, because we don’t want to kill the flower that inspired us. But definitely we need to have many subjects of the desire to move us forward.

At least, I do! Thank you my sweet men!

I guess you know where I’m coming from. I don’t want to give you a recipe on how to make love. I just want to remind you that “afterplay” is as important as foreplay. Did you know that? It just means that a smooth landing is as important as a gentle and sensitive beginning. How crazy you get in between is really up to you! But remember that the moment of contenting and the moment of separating are incredibly delicate moments.

Much has been written about foreplay. But what is “afterplay”? Well, for more sensitive people, a quick separation after climax can be like dropping cold water on them. For many people a smooth landing is important for feeling safe and comfortable. Why not give a few more minutes to your lover after you both went wild and crazy (and hopefully had a few orgasms)?

After climax you want to ground yourself again. It’s a beautiful time when, together, you can consciously come to the end of this intimate meeting. Maybe it’s as simple as keeping eye contact while silently lying next to each other. You have shared wildness and passion, so why not the silence too? It’s like the biggest appreciation for your partner.

So please don’t leave your lover right after, maybe there are more gifts that you can receive from each other. And I wish you exciting and deep moments while exploring new possibilities.

What happens when the muscles are regularly stimulated? The body burns fat so easily; you don’t have to be overly careful about the food you eat. And when some of the muscle groups start to become active, your posture also starts to change. The body posture you have during the day also mirrors the same posture, or approach, that you have to life. That means with more physical movement and the resulting improved posture, you show a different attitude in life to the people you meet. We can very quickly sense by their bodies whether a person is sick or feels fit and strong.

The vibe you send out is like a magnet for the people with that same vibe. So choose carefully what kind of energy you project to the world. What kind of people do you want attract?

After some time practicing acro yoga I noticed muscles I didn’t even know I had. And I’m more and more curious about what my body will allow me to do. Stretching is also important. In Chinese tradition it’s believed that equal time should be dedicated to strengthening and stretching.

For me there are a few ways how to find the balance between stretching and strengthening. When I do yoga I don’t have to think about stretching because yoga builds strength and stretches the body at the same time. If I do another kind of sport I always find around 20 minutes at the end for a good stretch and five minutes for the final relaxation. Why is it important? Simply try it! It is like the dessert after the main course. And the second benefit is the next day you don’t feel muscle pain.

I love to look at body builders (I mean the normal sized ones…), but that’s all that this sport offers you. Unfortunately this sport is just for effect, it is missing the strength and flexibility. I believe that real strength comes from the balance of flexibility, strength and mental health.

Lifting heavy dumbbells may inflate the muscles but it does not build strength and flexibility. I know many men long for big muscles and a six-pack, but as I talk to women it’s honestly not the priority for most of us.

When it comes to exercise, some love to go on a long walk, some like to run and work out, others prefer to skate, or play team sports or practice yoga. I like a bit of everything.

What is the active part of your day? Maybe you need a sport buddy to support you with your discipline; I found that’s very helpful.

If you already have your routine, keep going. And remember that regular practice builds inner strength at first and supports us to feel good in our “temple”.

The physical effect will be obvious later but your improved feeling happens immediately. It’s such a pleasant moment when people start to notice this improved mood and ask you what is different with you.

I hope something you read here will be useful and inspiring for you. If you feel like sharing what’s in your routine, please leave your message below.